As someone who has been labeled as 'bereaved' plenty of times, let me also share how horrific the entire concept of 'Bereaved Mother's Day" is. I'm sure there are plenty of women who do not share my hatred of this day, and to them I honor their loss and their choice. Even though I do not have my daughter here anymore, I am still a mother. Like an actual, normal, human mother who birthed another human. And for that reason, I am a fan of Mother's Day. Just regular old plain boring Mother's Day. I am acutely aware that I am 'bereaved' every single moment of my life, and I'd rather not dedicate special holidays to showing the world that I'm not a regular mom who gets to celebrate Mother's Day, but a BEREAVED mother who can only celebrate BEREAVED Mother's Day. (I'm not nearly as bitter as I sound! But I do just hate the word.)
I didn't realise 'bereaved mothers day' is even a thing! I don't see why a distinction is necessary!? What you are saying makes complete sense (and doesn't sound bitter!). I'm also not a great fan of the word... it's very impersonal and makes me feel Victorian!! Thanks for sharing xx
As someone who has been labeled as 'bereaved' plenty of times, let me also share how horrific the entire concept of 'Bereaved Mother's Day" is. I'm sure there are plenty of women who do not share my hatred of this day, and to them I honor their loss and their choice. Even though I do not have my daughter here anymore, I am still a mother. Like an actual, normal, human mother who birthed another human. And for that reason, I am a fan of Mother's Day. Just regular old plain boring Mother's Day. I am acutely aware that I am 'bereaved' every single moment of my life, and I'd rather not dedicate special holidays to showing the world that I'm not a regular mom who gets to celebrate Mother's Day, but a BEREAVED mother who can only celebrate BEREAVED Mother's Day. (I'm not nearly as bitter as I sound! But I do just hate the word.)
I didn't realise 'bereaved mothers day' is even a thing! I don't see why a distinction is necessary!? What you are saying makes complete sense (and doesn't sound bitter!). I'm also not a great fan of the word... it's very impersonal and makes me feel Victorian!! Thanks for sharing xx